Fear from Honesty

This is something I thought about on my way home from getting my mustache lasered. Yes, I have a mustache. Yes, I shave it from time to time. Yes, I am getting it lasered. I am not getting it lasered because I don't want to take care of it-- but because the big thick hairs that come through hurt and get infected. So, hence, I am taking care of it.

Something I thought about on my way home, I digress: fear of truth, especially within the church.

Let's say that we were completely honest. Let's say that I admit that I do drugs (which I don't.. but lets say I do). Let's say that we all know something Shameful about me (other than the mustache bit).

I think that we discourage truth of "bad" things for fear that the person doing them might still be successful at life (happy home, good friendships, helpful.. christ like, has self respect, isn't condemned etc.). So we shame people into dishonesty because we are afraid that even with their sins- they might still be happy-- and we don't want others to know that this is a possibility. Are you hearing me correctly. Maybe this must be restated.


Dishonesty is bred by fear of being unaccepted where you are. maybe that's it.

It's like when you are in a class, and the teacher says, "is everyone following?" and you aren't-- and you don't ask the question. Because you want to be seen as smart... not as not following.. you want to be accepted where you are. And that is all brought on by people not accepting that you might not get it now- but with further explanation you would understand it later-- and maybe better than everyone else.

I don't know what I am getting at- maybe it is just life griping me again.

But I think, it really comes back to the church thing. You could never say, at my church at least, eh.. I am trying to give up promiscuous sex, and get support and understanding.

I suppose you could say, I am trying to give up white bread though-- and get a fair amount of support and understanding.. and people would say "ah yeah, I tried that once too."

honesty begets honesty. ... or does it beget familiarity and hence approval. I don't know.